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Sex Tips For Couples Who Want to Swing

Sex Tips For Couples Who Want to Swing

Swinging offers couples sexual variety and adventure and the opportunity to live out their sex fantasies. But it can also be dangerous if you and your partner aren’t prepared.

First, it’s important to be open-minded. There is a common misconception that swinging is cheating or an affair, but it is actually based on consensual nonmonogamy.

1. Be open-minded

You and your partner must be open-minded if you want to swing. Unlike some other forms of non-monogamy, such as polyamory, which emphasizes building relationships with people outside of your primary partnership, swinging is strictly sexual and requires a strong level of trust and communication between you and your partner.

This is a lifestyle where you might be exposed to people who have different smells, are of different races or backgrounds and have different body types. It’s not for everyone, and that’s okay. You can close your swinging account if it turns out to be too much for you and your partner, or you realize you just don’t enjoy sharing your lover with other couples. It’s not cheating and it’s not a bad thing.

While you and your partner may be very turned on by the idea of group sex, wife swapping or voyeurism, you should think about whether this is really what you want to do for the rest of your life. It is a huge lifestyle change and you need to be committed to it.

To find out if swinging is for you, start off slow. You don’t need to visit a swingers club or plan an orgy for your first experience, but you can attend sex parties with a friend, explore BDSM or check out the rules of a local swing club to see if it’s right for you.

2. Talk about expectations

When it comes to swinging, you and your partner need to be on the same page. This is especially important when it comes to expectations. If you go in with your eyes closed about what you’re both looking for, it’s a recipe for disaster.

One way to avoid this is to have several conversations before you sign up for apps, start attending sex parties or talk about a foursome sitch with people in person. Talk about what you do and don’t want to do, including the specifics of how to handle STIs and birth control. If you’re not sure where to begin, watch porn or read erotica together and that will give you something to talk about.

Another good thing to do is talk about your red and green lists, which are the sex acts you’re open to experiencing (a full swap would include all sexual acts except vaginal penetration) and what you’re not (like oral sex). If you’re not clear on this in advance, it can lead to some really awkward situations.

You also need to be clear about your boundaries, which might include whether you’re OK with being in the same room as other couples or if you have a closed door. Once you’ve had your first swing experience, be sure to debrief with your partner about what was hot and what wasn’t.

3. Start slow

The idea of exploring sex with people other than your partner may seem like a bad thing in the long run, but many couples are finding that swinging helps them build a more fulfilling relationship by adding sexual variety and adventure. However, this isn’t a lifestyle to jump into without carefully discussing it with your partner first. “You want to make sure that you have open communication and that your significant other is receptive to new experiences,” says Emily Morse, host of the popular podcast Sex With Emily.

If you’re unsure how your partner will respond, start slow by watching porn or reading erotica together to begin the discussion. That will help you get an idea of what you both may enjoy, including butt play and anal penetration, which are often more common in the swinging world.

It’s also a good idea to look up the etiquette of your local swingers’ club, party, or convention before you go—it will be different from one place to another and will have specific rules about RSVPing, age limits, alcohol, nudity, and more. Arriving late is a big no-no, as it makes the other guests uncomfortable and puts you at risk of getting kicked out. If your partner wants to leave early, be sure to let them know ahead of time so they don’t leave you in the lurch.

4. Come up with a signal

If polyamory has reached its cultural adolescence, swinging is its grown-up cousin with its own reality TV shows and all-inclusive resorts. If you and your partner decide to give it a go, you will need to agree on some signals so that you can communicate clearly throughout the experience. This is especially important if you are feeling uncomfortable or want to end the night. A clear signal will help you avoid awkward situations that could arise if you just stop talking.